Happy Father(less) Day?

I forget where I heard this story about elephants and fathers first, but basically, a "gang" of wild young elephants were terrorizing the African plains, randomly killing other animals, especially rhinos. These young elephants had been transplanted, and had grown up on their own without parental supervision. So one idea that was implemented to try and stop these elephants from killing was to bring in an old bull elephant. Once "Dad" was present, all the killing stopped. Fathers (or just plain male figures) seem to make a difference.

I just read a GREAT article on how the young adult generation in many aspects is the "fatherless generation" like the wild herd of young elephants. It is an interview with Rick Johnson, author of Better Dads, Stronger Sons and founder of Better Dads, a fathering skills program designed to equip men to be more engaged in the lives of their children. I agree with many of Rick's conclusions, and would encourage you to consider how you can help change this culture of "fatherlessness".

To any guys reading this: The first idea I have for changing this culture of fatherlessness is to be a great father yourself (or prepare to be a great father). Stay involved in the lives of your kids. Sacrifice time for yourself and give it to them. Read a book. Throw a ball. Even watch one of their TV programs for 30 minutes (and talk about it with them). Ask how their day went and really listen to them, even when they ramble and struggle to find the right words. They crave your attention and admiration and need to know you are proud of them and love them. So show it - through your actions, your ears, your eyes, and your words.

My second idea (especially if you don't have your own kids yet) is to "adopt" the kids of a single mom you know. Take them out for an afternoon, take them to the park, give the mom a break, and let these kids know that there is at least one guy who thinks they are important. You may not be able to be a "guy friend" to every kid out there, but you can do it for one kid. And that make all the difference.