Thursday, May 15, 2008

Co-ed Dorm Rooms?

I guess I shouldn't be surprised at this article on co-ed dorm rooms now available on many college campuses. I've seen signs of this in our culture for sometime now, so this just seems to be the natural progression. Eventually we'll probably end up with co-ed locker rooms as well.

While the article has only positive to say about the experiences of those who have already experienced a co-ed living situation, I can't help but wonder what the long-term ramifications of this might be. To me, it just seems like practice for a future divorce (even though these couples living together aren't married). Here's what I mean:

You learn how to live with a member of the opposite sex, but not be "one flesh" with them, living as a united team. So when your marriage hits some tough times, or you just go through a bit of apathy in your marriage, you revert back to what you learned in your college days, shift into a "roommate" mentality, and stop working on the relationship. Eventually, you want to feel "in love" again, and so you look for it elsewhere since your relationship with your spouse is now merely platonic. For most people, when they reach this stage, divorce just seems like the natural thing to do since "we've grown apart."

Additionally, co-ed dorm rooms seem to devalue the "specialness" of a guy and girl getting to know and explore each other intimately (physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, etc.) in the confines of a new marriage. It seems like we are content with our mud pies in the slums when God offers us a holiday at the ocean (to recall the C.S. Lewis quote).

But I'm probably "too old-fashioned" and "Christian" to see that this is just fine for some people. Looks like I'll need to ask for forgiveness from the popular culture for connecting the dots and seeing where this "innocent" situation could lead us.

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